We’re not here to connect with everybody. There are some people you don’t want to connect with because they’ll have a bad influence on you.

"We’re not here to connect with everybody. That’s an idea that has its roots back in European Romanticism: the idea we’re suffering because we don’t connect with all our fellow humanity. Well, there are some people you don’t want to connect with because they’ll have a bad influence on you. It’s not that you’re passing judgment on them forever, but you use your judgment, you use your circumspection to see which friendships are actually having a good impact on you, and which ones are not."

~ Thanissaro Bhikkhu "Circumspection"

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