We want people to be happy, but a lot of people are doing things that won’t lead to happiness — and you can’t stop them. In cases like that, you just have to say, “Well, that’s their business. We each have to take care of ours.”

"We want people to be happy, but a lot of people are doing things that won’t lead to happiness — and you can’t stop them. In cases like that, you just have to say, “Well, that’s their business. We each have to take care of ours.” Because the things we’re responsible for are our actions. All too often, if we’re concerned about the actions of others, we forget about our own actions and start getting careless."

~ Thanissaro Bhikkhu "With Goodwill for the Entire World"

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