In cases where some people are difficult, learn how to have goodwill [mettā] for them regardless. As for the difficult things they do, learn how to have equanimity about them. Regardless.

"In cases where some people are difficult, learn how to have goodwill [mettā] for them regardless. As for the difficult things they do, learn how to have equanimity about them. Regardless. When good things happen to people you don’t like, learn how to have equanimity. When bad things happen to people you do like, learn how to have equanimity. Be able to draw on these things whenever you need them."

~ Thanissaro Bhikkhu "Old Kamma & New"

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